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Dear Mom and Dad,


   I have something I need to talk to you about even though you probably already know or at least suspect. I find that this is an easier way for me to talk about it instead of talking in person. So please just listen to me for a few minutes. My whole life I've known I was different then all the other girls. I have identified a lot more with guys then I have with girls. 4th grade is when I actually did start to be attracted to girls and not guys. Over time of course I did have my few crushes on guys but have always known that I could never really see myself being with them. This next part is going to b where it might clear something up for you. In seventh grade I realized that I felt not like I thought I should. I mean, I felt like my mind and body were two completely different people. People of opposite genders. I knew something was wrong. You can't even imagine what it feels like to wake up every day and feel like the person in the mirror is a complete stranger.

     All this time I have felt like this but have always been too scared to say anything. I was just recently introduced to the concept of transgender or transsexuals. I've done a lot of research and talked about it with transgender people and I feel like that is right where I fall into place. I know that you have noticed my changes like cutting off my hair and buying new more guy-ish clothes and even wanting to wear a tux to prom. These changes have made me feel a lot more comfortable in my skin. Especially when people have "mistaken" me as a guy or have told me I look like a guy. I have started binding my chest but I'm pretty sure you already figured that out. I have even looked into names, hormones and surgery but all of those things with a lot of hesitation and fear because I feel like I still have a lot of figuring out and those are things that if anything, would come many years down the road. I think gender therapy might be a good next step. I don't want to say I'm transgender yet but I know that I am having gender identity issues.  

     I hope you realize how much courage this took me and how scared I still am but I felt like its time for me to talk to you guys about this a little. Just please understand that now that you know I'm going to be anxious and need a little space from you guys so please try not to confront me right now until I'm ready. Please don't ask questions. Its time for me to explore my inner thoughts and emotions. Thank you for understanding.


I love you,
Karli
The letter I wrote to my parents to come out to them as transgender.
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akaCaitlinne Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That was a really brave thing to do! How did they react?
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AkatsukiChild Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2012
I wouldn't even dare to write my parents a letter ;__; It would be so hard to even look at them when knowing they had read it xC
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QuinnFish Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2012  Student Photographer
You have so much courage, haha. Im also a trans, FTM, i've only told my mum out of my family members. About half a year ago? At first, she was shocked and wouldn't accept it. But since then i've been getting more and more upset about it and she's noticed, we're gonna see if I can get councilling for it because she's realised that im dead serious about this. But yeah, I admire your courage. >~<
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I also admire yours. Things are challenging and complicated. This path is not the easiest to travel on but the feeling you get reaching each big change is amazing and makes any hard times worth it. I wish you the best of luck in your life journey. :)
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Matsue-Faust Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2011  Student Digital Artist
Oh, that must be very hard (
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batrat23123 Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2011
I feel the same way, and although my parents are basically supportive, it's a beautiful letter and I support you entirely. I hope that everything is okay <333
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MandyB82 Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011
Oh honey, I'm so sorry! :tears:

I don't understand how parents can be so unsupportive, especially after your letter explained how scared you were! What kind of love is that?! :tears:

I'm so angry at your parents right now! :x
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tuffhoss Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
It takes a lot of guts to tell your family these things (I've been there recently on coming out to my parents as a lesbian, and they were furious but I'm already at the age to be moving out). You have my respect and support. :heart:
It's ridiculous for people to react as badly as they do over things like this--just accept people as they come, it's not that hard.
I hope luck'll look kindly on you in the future!
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StrykeWolf Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011
really well written, sorry to hear that they took it badly but theres always hope. Its amazing that you had the courage to actually write this, i really hope things pick up for you
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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nokilakki Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Student General Artist
I admire you truly for being brave enough to write this, and I'm so sorry your parents are kicking you out.
I wish I could help more, but I guess all I can do is say you have all my support.~
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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nokilakki Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Student General Artist
You are welcome, any time.~
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Evilcreations8D Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
I'm sorry you are getting kicked out for being who you are. I really think you are really brave for just being who you are. I wish you a lot of succes!
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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Evilcreations8D Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
No problem.
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Mad-as-a-Hatter8 Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Student General Artist
This was excellently composed. It's upsetting to hear that they're kicking you out because you are who you are. Come live with me ;_;

I don't know how much this will mean to you, but I'm throwing it out there... Though we're strangers, I'm always available to talk to if you're going through a rough time... In the meantime, I give you my undying support. :heart:
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you so much. your support means so much to me right now. thank you
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Mad-as-a-Hatter8 Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Student General Artist
Anytime :heart: I'm just a note away if you need me.
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Red-Velvet-Wings Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011
That's so terrible that you are getting kicked out. I wish you the best of luck. The courage you took to write and post this is absoulty amazing. You are an amazing person, and I bet your future will be just as amazing.
Good luck. :huggle:
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:iconmartialartslife:
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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Janttuman Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011
Loads and loads of support to you. I admire you, that took lots of courage. To tell your parents.
:hug: I can't offer you more than mere emoticons hug of support. I wish I could do more
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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:iconli-kiada:
Li-Kiada Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Very well worded. How did your parents take it?
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:iconmartialartslife:
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
poorly
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:iconli-kiada:
Li-Kiada Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Yech. Well, I hope it works out for you.


...stupid 'rents....
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
yah ik. thanks
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iFai Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011
You worded this perfectly. I'm sorry to hear that they're kicking you out...I hope you can find a place to stay...
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Rawr-devil Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
What state do you live in? I'll take you in!
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
michigan :/
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Rawr-devil Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh I'm in the east. Are you going to college next year? If so, where? Cause you could live in a dorm but have thanksgiving and Xmas with me :D
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
yah western michigan
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Rawr-devil Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Ooh I'm afraid I don't know anybody who lives in that area but I'm determined for you to find a home and be accepted <3 Hang in there
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thanks and im trying
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LittleCookii Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
How did your parents respond to it?..
It's a well worded letter btw, its way better then the one i wrote to tell my mom I'm Bisexual, Lol..
But Yeah, It's a really good letter <3
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thanks and they hate it...a lot
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LittleCookii Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Aw.. I'm sorry to hear that.. .n.
What did they do when you gave them the letter..?
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:iconmartialartslife:
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
they are kicking me out
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LittleCookii Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh Wow.. :c
Im sorry to hear that.. It's really bad when parents do that because of what their children are.
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
yah ik :/ i just need support right now
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:iconlittlecookii:
LittleCookii Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
*nodnod* :c
Im sure everything will work out just fine :heart:
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
hopefully
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MatBroome1996 Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
I'm sorry you are getting kicked out for being who you are. It breaks my heart to hear this, even more so reading exactly what they read. You worded this perfectly and smoothly.

I wish you luck with finding a place to live.
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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MageCeleste Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011
So sorry to hear that you're getting kicked out. :(
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:iconmartialartslife:
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
its fine. ill b fine.
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BulletproofKilljoy Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Student Photographer
You're getting kicked out? COME AND LIVE WITH ME? :/ :hug: I really dont know what else to say.
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
i would. im actually pretty desperate right now ya know?
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Sakkeru Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Student General Artist
How did they react?
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MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
I'm getting kicked out the day I turn 18 which is in less than a month.
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