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Dear Mom and Dad,

   I have something I need to talk to you about even though you probably already know or at least suspect. I find that this is an easier way for me to talk about it instead of talking in person. So please just listen to me for a few minutes. My whole life I've known I was different then all the other girls. I have identified a lot more with guys then I have with girls. 4th grade is when I actually did start to be attracted to girls and not guys. Over time of course I did have my few crushes on guys but have always known that I could never really see myself being with them. This next part is going to b where it might clear something up for you. In seventh grade I realized that I felt not like I thought I should. I mean, I felt like my mind and body were two completely different people. People of opposite genders. I knew something was wrong. You can't even imagine what it feels like to wake up every day and feel like the person in the mirror is a complete stranger.

     All this time I have felt like this but have always been too scared to say anything. I was just recently introduced to the concept of transgender or transsexuals. I've done a lot of research and talked about it with transgender people and I feel like that is right where I fall into place. I know that you have noticed my changes like cutting off my hair and buying new more guy-ish clothes and even wanting to wear a tux to prom. These changes have made me feel a lot more comfortable in my skin. Especially when people have "mistaken" me as a guy or have told me I look like a guy. I have started binding my chest but I'm pretty sure you already figured that out. I have even looked into names, hormones and surgery but all of those things with a lot of hesitation and fear because I feel like I still have a lot of figuring out and those are things that if anything, would come many years down the road. I think gender therapy might be a good next step. I don't want to say I'm transgender yet but I know that I am having gender identity issues.  

     I hope you realize how much courage this took me and how scared I still am but I felt like its time for me to talk to you guys about this a little. Just please understand that now that you know I'm going to be anxious and need a little space from you guys so please try not to confront me right now until I'm ready. Please don't ask questions. Its time for me to explore my inner thoughts and emotions. Thank you for understanding.

I love you,
The letter I wrote to my parents to come out to them as transgender.
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akaCaitlinne Featured By Owner May 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That was a really brave thing to do! How did they react?
AkatsukiChild Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2012
I wouldn't even dare to write my parents a letter ;__; It would be so hard to even look at them when knowing they had read it xC
QuinnFish Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2012  Student Photographer
You have so much courage, haha. Im also a trans, FTM, i've only told my mum out of my family members. About half a year ago? At first, she was shocked and wouldn't accept it. But since then i've been getting more and more upset about it and she's noticed, we're gonna see if I can get councilling for it because she's realised that im dead serious about this. But yeah, I admire your courage. >~<
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Feb 13, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I also admire yours. Things are challenging and complicated. This path is not the easiest to travel on but the feeling you get reaching each big change is amazing and makes any hard times worth it. I wish you the best of luck in your life journey. :)
Matsue-Faust Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2011  Student Digital Artist
Oh, that must be very hard (
batrat23123 Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2011
I feel the same way, and although my parents are basically supportive, it's a beautiful letter and I support you entirely. I hope that everything is okay <333
MandyMullins2 Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011
Oh honey, I'm so sorry! :tears:

I don't understand how parents can be so unsupportive, especially after your letter explained how scared you were! What kind of love is that?! :tears:

I'm so angry at your parents right now! :x
tuffhoss Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
It takes a lot of guts to tell your family these things (I've been there recently on coming out to my parents as a lesbian, and they were furious but I'm already at the age to be moving out). You have my respect and support. :heart:
It's ridiculous for people to react as badly as they do over things like this--just accept people as they come, it's not that hard.
I hope luck'll look kindly on you in the future!
StrykeWolf Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011
really well written, sorry to hear that they took it badly but theres always hope. Its amazing that you had the courage to actually write this, i really hope things pick up for you
MartialArtsLife Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
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